tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119538984017348497.post106134668015256812..comments2021-12-09T09:52:34.941+02:00Comments on Ramblings of an Abuse Survivor: About guilt, shame and innocencesurvivorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08607133142447784385noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119538984017348497.post-40307117104709182992013-01-03T14:14:44.950+02:002013-01-03T14:14:44.950+02:00I'm glad to hear I contributed, in some small ...I'm glad to hear I contributed, in some small way, to your healing. :)survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08607133142447784385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119538984017348497.post-14057732165823819662012-12-21T03:45:32.329+02:002012-12-21T03:45:32.329+02:00I should thank you. You stood up. You gave yoursel...I should thank you. You stood up. You gave yourself a voice. And you've given me the courage to stand for myself. Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01740545912916908150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119538984017348497.post-38820963178407523842012-12-20T10:07:08.307+02:002012-12-20T10:07:08.307+02:00Thank you for sharing that. I've come to reali...Thank you for sharing that. I've come to realise that the biggest mistake I made was trying to be a survivor without accepting that I was a victim first. In this journey, one can't skip steps. survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08607133142447784385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119538984017348497.post-6007342128520286912012-12-18T16:57:32.162+02:002012-12-18T16:57:32.162+02:00Survivor, I totally agree with you. Feeling guilt...Survivor, I totally agree with you. Feeling guilty is a lot more comfortable than the pain of being victimized by someone you loved and trusted. Realizing that it will happen again, with another innocent child is so hard to accept. I understand this because I was sexually abused by my father. <br /><br />I've read that if a child is abused by their parent they may think, "I must be bad, or broken," because it is out of their realm of possibilities that their parents are bad or broken. For me, I still go back and forth with my thoughts thinking that my father was good/evil. And sometimes even wonder "is it me who's so broken that I made all of this up?"<br /><br />My therapist told me,"once you accept the fact you were the victim, you can move on to be the survivor." Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01740545912916908150noreply@blogger.com